5 Reasons Why I Didn’t Like Your Discussion Post

5 Reasons Why I Didn’t Like Your Discussion Post

Hi friends! 👋🏻 If you didn’t already know (but you should because I never stop mentioning it), I have been blogging for just over ten years and I have gained a lot of wisdom and experience in that time. Nothing really surprises me in the blogging world anymore since I’ve seen it all, and I feel like this gives me the license to help people out with their blogs.

Discussion posts are among my favourite posts to write because there’s something fun about throwing my thoughts into a post and then seeing what other people think, but not everyone gets it right. I have seen some discussion posts in my time that I didn’t think were up to scratch and made me X out of them once I was finished reading, so I wanted to share my reasons for not liking a discussion post.

Don’t take this too personally, this is just what I think, and what I think shouldn’t matter that much.

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you’re misinformed.

We all get misinformed about things from time to time, but when you’re writing a post about something, you really should know what it is that you’re talking about. I’ve corrected people about certain points they’ve made in their discussion posts (especially if it’s related to something I have studied at a degree level *cough*Orwell*cough*) because I’m the kind of person who gets really bugged by someone stating a misinterpretation or a myth as fact. It’s not nit-picky for people to correct you, but it is a sign that you should probably do some more thorough research.

your argument isn’t very clear.

This isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker for me because I am guilty of writing a few discussion posts that are just a jumbled mess of thoughts. However, for me to decide on whether or not I have anything to contribute to the discussion, I need to be able to understand what it is that you’re saying. If I don’t get it, I’m lost, and I’m not going to be leaving a comment.

i didn’t agree with you.

Disagreeing isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but sometimes I disagree with a discussion post so much that it makes me want to start an argument in the comments. I won’t do that, because I’m not a confrontational person and I don’t want to put any negativity into the blogging community, but if I don’t agree with what you’re saying, I’m not likely to enjoy the post. It’s natural, really.

you’re not very interested in having a discussion.

In my ten years of blogging, I have read quite a few blog posts that are less “I want to hear what other people think” and more “this is what I think, fuck you if you disagree because you’re wrong.” To me, this is more a matter of labelling posts correctly because when a rant is labelled a discussion, it’s asking for comments either agreeing or disagreeing. There are posts out there that show that the blogger isn’t interested in having a conversation about the topic, but just wants an outlet to rant, and while that’s absolutely fine, I’d rather know the actual intention of the post instead of guessing.

your tone is hostile and argumentative.

There’s nothing wrong with a good rant because you’re airing your feelings and ridding yourself of any negative thoughts, but when you come across as aggressive in what is supposed to be a discussion I’m going to not just be turned off from wanting to hear what you have to say, but from coming back to any of your posts.

I don’t mind people being confrontational, but if what is supposed to be a healthy discussion about something as mundane as spoilers or book formats turns into me feeling like I’m getting yelled at for having a differing opinion, I’m peacing out and I’m not coming back because I am uncomfortable.

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What are some reasons why you didn’t like a post?

13 Comments

  1. March 26, 2022 / 2:58 pm

    The last two, yes. I am not a super ranty person, so I find posts that are riddled with strong negative feelings put me off. It’s all good. It’s that person’s platform, but I don’t fee the need to interact.

    • Louise
      Author
      April 5, 2022 / 10:57 am

      I’m not much of a ranter either, I’ll read someone’s rant post but I don’t feel the need to interact with them. I’ll just leave a like and be on my way.

  2. Jane
    March 26, 2022 / 7:16 pm

    What makes me turn away from someone’s blog is when they bully and belittle people. Particularly when they start calling people words that end in -ist, -phobe, and -igot. That makes for a hostile and divulsive book blogging community.

    No fully grown adult should have any cause to call someone dehumanizing words. It only makes the person doing that narrow minded, hostile, and abusive.

    • Louise
      Author
      March 26, 2022 / 7:37 pm

      Calling out another person for harbouring bigoted and discriminatory beliefs is not bullying or dehumanising. What’s truly dehumanising is being on the receiving end of someone’s hatred because they think you shouldn’t exist because of things you can’t change, and that’s not the point of the discussion I was making.

  3. March 27, 2022 / 2:16 am

    Everything makes quite some sense! I do agree with you.
    When I do discussion posts, it’s mostly questions that I might have upon if other bloggers do differently and/or more on the mental health/feelings of things.. though sometimes it does end up with me quite babbling back and forth about it ahah 😅

    • Louise
      Author
      April 5, 2022 / 10:58 am

      I like the way you do discussions! It feels like having a conversation with a friend 🙂

  4. March 27, 2022 / 3:01 am

    I totally agree with you about confrontational, ranty posts. I will usually just creep away. But one time someone linked up a very rude and ranty post against LGBT people in the discussion challenge and I deleted it. I just didn’t want to be associated with their views or their “I can say whatever I want and I don’t care what you think” attitude. They linked back up and I had to delete it again and asked that they refrain from using my linkup for these types of posts. It turned into a whole thing. That was the one and only time I ever deleted a post from the linkup (unless you count random spam posts that are linked). Not sorry.

    • Louise
      Author
      April 5, 2022 / 11:03 am

      Yikes! I’m not surprised that you deleted it from the linkup 😬

  5. March 27, 2022 / 12:00 pm

    Rants are a huge turn off for me. I work in customer service and deal with enough angry people. Even if I agree with a rant, I have no desire to read it. I also sometimes skip posts about popular topics. I’ve read so many discussions about why love triangles suck that I don’t think I need another one. I know all the love triangle talking points.

    • Louise
      Author
      April 5, 2022 / 11:06 am

      I agree with you on posts about popular topics. Love triangle discussions are such a basic post that it feels like every single blogger has done one at some point along with an insta-love post.

  6. April 4, 2022 / 1:21 am

    YES I absolutely agree! Especially on the last two points- like even if I have strong feelings about something, I am not trying to shut down anyone else’s opinions! I think the only time I would actively argue in a post/comment is if someone is being cruel/racist/homophobic/etc. That I would have to respond to, or I’d feel guilty I think. Look at me over here having opinions on discussions when I haven’t written one in at least a year 😂 I am cool with the rambling ones generally, but I agree that sometimes I just don’t have much to say in response, but that is okay too!

    • Louise
      Author
      April 5, 2022 / 11:21 am

      I don’t want to shut down anyone’s opinions either, if I disagree I’ll just say why or not leave a comment if I’m trying to avoid any confrontation.

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